My wife and I have a dear friend who recently and tragically lost her son to opioid addiction. I say \u201clost\u201d \u2014 but he died from his addiction, sadly and suddenly. Can you imagine a worse parental nightmare? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your child, who you loved so dearly and raised so carefully, grows up and becomes an addict. One day the street drugs he takes turns out to have a little too much fentanyl, and he\u2019s gone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Our friend\u2019s nightmare has come true for millions of parents around the world lately, with the global opioid epidemic expanding exponentially.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
RELATED: Opioids and the Loss of a Child: Heartened through Heartbreak<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n So here\u2019s a very serious question: what can parents do, especially in early childhood, to protect their children from the terrible consequences of drug use, drug abuse, drug addiction, and death?<\/p>\n\n\n\n In our age, this single question may be the most consequential one a parent can attempt to answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Maia Szalavitz, the author of \u201cUnbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction,\u201d has an interesting spiritual conclusion and recommendation regarding that question. In a 2016 article<\/a> in \u201cScientific American,\u201d she says that drug addictions are essentially learning disorders and that all addictions:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2026 really involve the same fundamental problem: a difficulty with self-regulation. This may appear predominantly as an inability to inhibit strong impulses, it may be largely an impairment in modulating negative emotions like anxiety, or it may have elements of both. In any case, difficulties with self-regulation lay the groundwork for learning addiction and for creating a condition that is hard to understand. The brain regions that allow self-regulation need experience and practice in order to develop. If that experience is aberrant or if those brain regions are wired unusually, they may not learn to work properly. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Are you training your children to self-regulate? Are you giving them enough experience, knowledge, and practice to fully develop those important self-regulatory brain regions?<\/p>\n\n\n\n To help accomplish those goals, here are a few suggestions from the Baha\u2019i teachings<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Regardless of your religion or lack of one, your children can benefit from knowing they were created in the image of a divine Creator \u2014 noble, good, loving, and kind. If they want to investigate that premise later as adults, they certainly can, but children who grow up believing that a beneficent, loving God watches over them also tend to absorb the moral, self-regulatory skills that allow them to refrain from indulging their lower instincts as often.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A Harvard Medical School study<\/a> recently found that those who regularly practiced their faith had significantly diminished risks of death from suicide, drug addiction, or alcohol poisoning. When children receive a spiritual education, drug use and drug addiction decline, multiple studies have shown.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Abdu\u2019l-Baha<\/a> wrote<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2026 from the very beginning, the children must receive divine education and must continually be reminded to remember their God. Let the love of God pervade their inmost being, commingled with their mother\u2019s milk. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n As you raise your children, praise them when you see them acting on their noblest, most spiritual inner character traits. When they share, when they\u2019re kind, when they selflessly do things for others, strive through praise, enthusiasm, and encouragement to make those positive spiritual traits a permanent part of their identities. Educate your children in schools that emphasize character development, and pay particular attention to their inner spiritual development at home, as well. The Baha\u2019i teachings recommend<\/a> that parents:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2026 should consider the question of goodly character as of the first importance. It is incumbent upon every father and mother to counsel their children over a long period, and guide them unto those things which lead to everlasting honor.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n In a child-rearing piece of advice meant to reduce entitlement and selfishness, Abdu\u2019l-Baha also wrote<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Training in morals and good conduct is far more important than book learning. A child that is cleanly, agreeable, of good character, well-behaved \u2014 even though he be ignorant \u2014 is preferable to a child that is rude, unwashed, ill-natured, and yet becoming deeply versed in all the sciences and arts. The reason for this is that the child who conducts himself well, even though he be ignorant, is of benefit to others, while an ill-natured, ill-behaved child is corrupted and harmful to others, even though he be learned. If, however, the child be trained to be both learned and good, the result is light upon light.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n RELATED: The Dire Baha\u2019i Warning About Opioids<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n For the maximum self-regulatory effect in children, encourage them towards high goals and ideals \u2014 and then let them struggle to achieve those goals on their own. Teach them practical skills, things they can master by doing. Don\u2019t hover, don\u2019t do school assignments for them, and don\u2019t over-protect. As Abdu\u2019l-Baha suggested<\/a>, \u201cBring them up to work and strive, and accustom them to hardship.<\/strong>\u201d By doing this, you\u2019ll allow your children to develop a sense of accomplishment and achievement by themselves. The Baha\u2019i teachings urge<\/a> parents to create an environment of order and discipline along with those high ideals, and challenge your children to achieve greatness:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Children are even as a branch that is fresh and green; they will grow up in whatever way ye train them. Take the utmost care to give them high ideals and goals, so that once they come of age, they will cast their beams like brilliant candles on the world, and will not be defiled by lusts and passions in the way of animals, heedless and unaware, but instead will set their hearts on achieving everlasting honour and acquiring all the excellences of humankind.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n All of these suggestions from the Baha\u2019i writings may initially seem far removed from guarding against the risk of addiction in the teenage and early adult years, but they will help sprout and strengthen the skills children need for that crucial initial decision they\u2019ll have to make when a peer offers them their first chemically-induced high. Today many children will face that moral, psychological, and spiritual test early and often, and those with strong, self-regulating inner characters will be the ones most likely to pass it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
1. Teach Children About God.<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
2.<\/strong> Emphasize Character Development<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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3. Set High Ideals and Goals<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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